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Learnings, teachings and tips & tricks for anyone to reference during difficult times, stressful conversations and moments when you need a little love.
The delicate balance between routine and spontaneity.
The delicate balance between routine and spontaneity. How much routine is too much? When does spontaneity become chaotic?
Is Resentment Killing Your Relationship?
Let's talk about the sneaky little monster that can wreak havoc in even the strongest of relationships: resentment
💖 Cheers to Love: The Power of Gratitude in Your Marriage
Here's the deal: Practicing gratitude isn't just a feel-good exercise you do on Thanksgiving. Nope, it's a game-changer for your marriage every darn day. Why? Because it's like a magic potion that strengthens your bond, deepens your connection, and sprinkles glitter on those mundane moments.
The books I use & love in my Practice : 5 Must-Read Relationship Books!📚
Ready to shake things up a bit? These are the books that I use in my practice and love. Let's dive into some awesome relationship books that promise to add a spark to your love life. Whether you're navigating the wild ride of marriage or just want to understand the mysteries of desire, these books have got your back!
Reconnecting With Love: Reigniting the Spark in Your Relationship
Life can sometimes get hectic, and we may find ourselves caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities and daily routines. But fear not! Love is a force that can conquer all, and it's time to reignite that spark and create magical moments together. 💑
Fostering a Culture of Respect in Your Relationship: Building the Foundation for Lasting Love
Fostering a culture of respect is an ongoing journey that requires commitment, communication, and a genuine appreciation for the uniqueness of your partner. As you embark on this journey, remember that a relationship founded on respect is not only enduring but also capable of weathering the storms of life with unwavering strength and unity.
Active Listening in Marriage
The Transformative Influence of Active Listening in Marriage: A Path to Deeper Connection and Lasting Intimacy
Navigating the Holidays: A Guide to Dealing with Grief
The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, love, and togetherness. However, for those grappling with grief, this time of year can intensify feelings of loss and loneliness. Coping with the absence of a loved one during the holidays is undoubtedly challenging, but it's crucial to remember that you are not alone in your struggle. This blog post aims to offer support and practical tips for navigating grief during the holiday season.
Building Bridges: Communication Strategies for a Stronger Connection with Your Partner 💪🏼❤️
Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and thriving relationship. As partners navigate the complexities of life together, the ability to convey thoughts, feelings, and needs becomes paramount. In this blog post, we will explore communication strategies that can help you forge a stronger connection with your partner.
✨'Tis the Season for Love: Festive Fun for Couples!✨
Season's greetings, lovebirds! As the holiday spirit fills the air, it's the perfect time to celebrate the joy of togetherness. Whether you're cozying up by the fire or venturing into the winter wonderland, here are some delightful ideas to make your holidays extra special:
Supporting Your Partner Through the Shadows: Navigating Depression Together
Supporting Your Partner Through the Shadows: Navigating Depression Together
Couples Therapy: Nurturing Stronger Relationships
The Value of Couples Therapy: Nurturing Stronger Relationships
The Healing Power of Therapy After Infidelity: Restoring Trust and Rebuilding Relationships
The Healing Power of therapy after Infidelity.
The Enduring Value of Intimacy in a Relationship
In the bustling world we live in, where technology connects us at the touch of a button, it's easy to overlook the significance of true intimacy in our relationships. However, in the depth of human connection lies a transformative power that nurtures, strengthens, and enriches our lives
Am I a Codependent?
As an example, a parent may have a hard time setting healthy boundaries by telling their grown addict son or daughter their behavior is unwelcomed and they must move out. This is a bit of a lose/lose scenario because enabling this bad behavior stalls recovery and only perpetuates the problem. In addition, the codependent parent puts themselves in harm’s way, mentally, emotionally, and perhaps even physically.
Codependency often stems from an individual’s low self-esteem, excessive need to please, and an inability to set boundaries. Codependents feel responsible for others’ problems and will take them on, despite the personal toll it may cost them.
Where Does Codependency Come From?
Codependency is usually developed in childhood. If you grew up in an environment where your emotions were either ignored or punished, you most likely developed low self-esteem, believing your needs didn’t matter.
Many codependents had parents who, for some reason, were unable to fulfill their role as caretakers. This dysfunction is usually the result of addiction, depression, narcissism, or other issues. In this situation, the child is forced to take on responsibilities beyond their years, taking care of younger siblings and even their own parent(s).
When we’re young, codependent behaviors are a survival mechanism. But as we become adults, these same behaviors prevent us from experiencing healthy relationships.
Signs of Codependency
Codependent people will typically one or more telltale codependency signs:
The belief you must “save” or “rescue” others
Low self-esteem
A one-sided relationship where one person is responsible and the other is allowed to be chronically irresponsible.
Going without so that others can have what they need or want.
Walking on eggshells around others and keeping opinions to yourself so as not to upset the other person.
Martyrdom – taking care of everyone else and resentful when no one cares for you.
A need to control
A need to please
An inability to set boundaries
Staying in relationships that are harmful or abusive
A feeling of guilt when taking care of yourself
If you can relate to one or more of these signs, there is a good chance you may be suffering from codependency.
The good news is, by committing to your own personal development and well-being, and working with a therapist who specializes in codependency, you can have a profound recovery that ultimately leads to peace, fulfillment, and true connections with others.
If you’d like to explore treatment options, please reach out to me.
SOURCES:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conquering-codependency/202011/10-signs-you-re-in-codependent-relationship
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/codependency
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/codependency
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/codependency/recovery
3 Ways to Improve to Communication in the Relationship
When you build a fire, whether to warm your home or to add a bit of ambience on a cold, winter’s night, you know you’ve got to tend to the fire to keep it going. Relationships are no different. They, too, begin with that initial spark, but you both have to tend to the relationship to keep the heat!
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Ready to feel connected to your partner and eager to have sex again?